- My first wife and I decided to move to Maui after vacationing there.
- After our difficult divorce, I left the island in a hopeless state.
- Years later, I took my new family to Maui to show them the place that saved my life.
I met my first wife working at a fast food restaurant and developed a friendship that turned into a relationship. We were married three months after we met — the day after my 18th birthday. Like me, she was from Milwaukee, and we raised three kids in Wisconsin.
With our 10th anniversary coming up, we wanted to celebrate somewhere special. After doing a bit of research, we chose Maui, Hawaii.
I expected to enjoy the island but didn’t realize how special Maui would be. We instantly fell in love with Hawaiian culture, the ocean breezes, delicious food, and a slower pace of life. Every day on Maui felt like a life I had always dreamed of living.
The island became an important hub in my life — through two marriages and a lot of healing.
We decided to move to Maui, and it was paradise — until it wasn’t
We debated whether we could afford to live in Maui and whether it was smart to be away from family. But we knew it was the right decision.
The kids were excited to leave Wisconsin and live on a warm, tropical island, and so were we. We sold most of our possessions, rented a home, moved to Maui, and lived a few blocks from the beach.
Life on Maui was everything we hoped it would be and more. While life was good, my relationship with my first wife wasn’t.
We were far from the place and life we were comfortable with. Tiny ripples of arguments turned into daily eruptions that eventually led to the end of our marriage two years after moving to Maui.
Divorce is expensive, and paying to support my ex-wife and three children meant I wouldn’t have much money left.
The divorce and decisions I made from being in a desperate and hopeless place left me with $28 in my bank account and no hope for life when I left Maui. I used my last few dollars to book a flight to the mainland.
I was homeless and stayed on a friend’s couch
I left Hawaii for South Florida around Christmastime because my friend said I could stay at his home. He saw my state and let me sleep on a couch.
I still had my business and focused on earning more revenue. I sell online courses, so I offered some promotions and created a ton of content for social media; thankfully, a few sales started to trickle in.
Even though my money was low, I knew I needed help, so I used the spare few pennies I could muster on some therapy sessions.
As I healed, an inner voice told me I needed to return to Maui, a place that meant everything to my mind and spirit. I couldn’t explain it, but I knew my healing and growth wouldn’t be complete without returning to Hawaii.
I went back to Maui to fully heal
After paying my bills and child support each month, I was still low on cash, but I did have some travel rewards. After booking my flight to Maui with points, I booked a stay in a $20-a-night hostel for the month of January. I would be roughing it with the young folks.
Once I was on Maui again after leaving in such a broken way, my suspicions were right: I had completed my healing.
I spent mornings in the ocean, letting the sounds and breezes calm me. I worked on my business every day from cafés that overlooked the water. Being so close to the beach, I slept well every night. I reconnected with friends, exercised, ate fresh food, and spent time with my kids.
I healed through Maui’s amazing energy and left the island a month later in a better mental state and with a plan.
I had an incredible year that year, and my life, mindset, relationships, and business have grown exponentially since then. That bonus month on Maui allowed me to write a new chapter in my story — a triumphant chapter.
I brought my new family to Maui, too
Three years after my healing experience, a friendship with my now-wife Cindy blossomed into a relationship that grew into a marriage proposal.
I remarried, was out of debt, and running a thriving business.
I wanted to take my second wife and stepchildren to Maui to experience a place that had profoundly changed my life. I had told them so much about the island and what it had done for me, and they wanted to experience it for themselves.
It was such an incredible family vacation to introduce my family to the awesomeness of Maui. They loved it so much and understood its impact on my life. We made a once-a-year family trip every year up until the year of the great fire in Lahaina.
Your environment can profoundly affect you as a human being, and Maui continues to be the place that impacts my life. It’s the place I come back to for healing, inspiration, and growth.
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